Concept
The register gap

'Sir' shows respect. It also marks distance.

Formal deference is correct professional behavior in Indian hierarchies — and reads as discomfort with equality in US tech culture.

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The problem

US tech culture is performatively egalitarian: engineers call VPs by first name, and interviews are framed as two-way professional conversations between peers. Into this walks 'sir', 'ma'am', 'kindly', 'as per your requirement' — register that signals respect in India but reads, to a US interviewer, as hierarchy-seeking. The practical cost: it frames you as a subordinate awaiting instruction in a conversation specifically designed to evaluate whether you operate as a peer. None of this is fair to candidates trained that formality is professionalism. It is, however, how the signal lands.

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The key insight

The target register is composed directness: first names ('Thanks, Sarah'), plain requests ('Could you clarify the scope?' not 'Kindly elaborate'), and confident declaratives without softening prefixes ('I'd approach it this way' not 'As per my understanding, sir, I would humbly suggest'). The shift is not toward casualness — it is toward the register US colleagues use with each other. Composed, direct, warm. Deference markers get read as junior; composed directness gets read as senior. That mapping is the whole game.

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Before and after

What you said
Yes sir, thank you for the question sir. As per my understanding of the requirement, I would kindly request the stakeholders to provide the details, and based on the same I will do the needful and revert back.
What lands
+Good question. I'd start by getting the requirements clear with stakeholders — specifically what the success metric is — and then I'd scope the first iteration around that.

Same intent: clarify, then act. The second version is shorter, peer-register, and contains an actual point of view (the success-metric focus). Notice nothing about it is rude.

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How Arpan helps

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Cultural Readiness Score™ · the four bands
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FAQ

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What do I call the interviewer?

A.Their first name, from the moment they introduce themselves with it. If unsure, mirror exactly how they introduced themselves. 'Sir' or 'ma'am' in a US tech interview is never expected, and dropping it will feel stranger to you than it reads to them — they won't notice its absence at all.
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Is being direct considered rude in the US?

A.Directness about work is the professional norm; rudeness is directness about people. 'I disagree with that approach because X' is fully professional. The register to drop is ornamental formality, not warmth or courtesy — 'thanks' and 'good question' are still doing their jobs.
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Is this about English fluency?

A.No. Arpan is not an English language platform. The engineers who use it are fluent. The issue is professional communication register — how you describe your work, your decisions, and your impact in the specific context of a US behavioral interview.
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